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Jylaz366

7:42pm Feb 10 2011

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Okay, so this is my life's story. me and my sister were great sisters. We did everything together with little fights and arguements. We had only a few fights ages 1 through 5. 6 and 7 years old were a little more arguementive. By 8, we were getting into fights almost every two days. By 9, about everyday. Whether they were small or large arguements. 10 wasn't any different.

At 11, we started to go to public school. Yes, we were sick and tired of seeing each other for almost all of the time we were homeschooled, But she was still my sister. At 12, things got worse. My sister became a smart-ally and a smart-mouth. Her sharp tongue always go her into trouble. My helpings never changed anything. She was just to arrogant to let our parents control her. T.T I can't take it anymore. She has too much attitude when she doesn't get what she wants.

Today she got in a fuss because she couldn't have pizza for lunch. She chose not to eat anything for lunch. She never eats Breakfast, and she always either gets what she wants for lunch, or has nothing. It pains me to see her attitude with our mom during this time. She gets so s*censored*y and bratty. She has made my mom lose her temper one too many times. I got so frustrated with her when she lost so much, that I just told her to do what she was told, she refused. She kept saying she had nothing more to lose. I told her she had a whole life worth living and she shouldn't soil it now. She fought back against my mother. I started to cry, I hate seeing the trouble she gets in and I can't do anything. I try, but always fail.

Please help me figure out a way to help my sister out of these moods. I am sick and tired of her losing her privileges. Her life is going down the drain. She just wants to sit on the bed and do nothing about it. She doesn't want to give in to my parents. She keeps blaming them for starting the arguement. She never seems to see that good things in life and always fights against having parents. She said that when she grows up, she was going to rebel against parents!! Do you know what it is like to hear her say that?! Kids need their parents, she doesn't understand that. I need help to figure out how to help her. My mom trys and she fails as well. My dad doesn't even bother trying its so hopeless. I don't know what to do and I don't want this to happen. I keep having nightmares that she will commit suicide or run away. I am lost in words for how much I care for her, I don't want her life to end now. She has such a bright future that she seems to want to lose.

Thank you for letting me post this and thank you for taking the time to read this post. I just need to talk this out. This is just so upsetting to me. Thank you again for taking the time to read this long post.




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Mythalian

8:11pm Feb 10 2011

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Aww, Jy!  I'm so sorry to hear this....

My sister is kind of similar.

She always goes against my parents for no reason and ends up shooting herself in the foot with it.  It really upsets me when they fight.......

To be honest, I don't know what to do either.  I just wanted to let you know you're not alone and I hope your sister ends up alright.




Jylaz366

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Thanks Mythalian. ^^



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mercyme6

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Oh, my. Dear, listen. I've lost my sister in an accident. Sit her down and talk to her. Don't let her go. I lost my sister this way and I'll regret it for the rest of my life.So, sit her down, and talk to her. Tell her that you only want what's best for her, and that you love her dearly.It will work, trust me.



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Jylaz366

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I am sorry about your sister Mercy. 8c Thanks for the advice. ^^ I will do that.



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XAllurcore

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Best thing to do is to sit her down, force her to look into your eyes und give her a good talking too.
If she tries to look away force her to look you eye to eye, even if you have to force your forehead to hers, talk everything out with her.
My sisters are the same way und this is my method.
It works most of the time, even just for a short period of time,
Raise your voice if you have too, to get your point across.
Girls I know for a fact are like this at this age, not all girls, most are, or atleast some.
Best thing to do is to support them with how they are und try to help them.
Let them know whats wrong, that your worried, you wanna help und you love them.<'3
Thats the best thing anyone could do.♥



Jylaz366

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Thanks Allur. <3



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Jenny

9:08pm Feb 10 2011

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I don't have siblings, but I've seen that type of situation happen a few times before.

To me, public school will change anyone. That's probably why she's acting different: because of everything and everyone else influencing her, she might possibly be envious of others and is demanding more attention and wants more stuff. The things we see around us influence our actions and thoughts, so her mind probably got manipulated by it..

Jy', you need to talk to her alone. Keep talking to her and make her realize that her life is good and she doesn't need anything else except her family. After you see her behavior returning to normal, you have to sit her down with your mom and dad (or let her talk to them separately one at a time). 




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Aragarthiel

9:49pm Feb 10 2011

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I'm the oldest girl of the five in my family, and I agree.  Sit her down and talk to her.  Get your point across any way you can.

And from the sound of it, if she's not eating breakfast and doesn't eat lunch if she doesn't get what she wants, she may be anorexic.  Tell your parents about her eating habits and ask them to get her checked out. 




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Jylaz366

10:39pm Feb 10 2011

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Spazzy: Thanks. ^^

Ara: Okay. 8D

Thanks everyone for helping me. ^^ 




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AshEcho

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CakeBake

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The best thing to do is talk to her. If it gets any worse, she needs to be checked out my a psychiatrist. -cough- excuse my bad spelling. :c




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AshEcho

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I'm not crazy!! XD

Jylaz why did you make this? DX




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Jylaz366

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Because I was sad and had no homework. XD



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