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DragonSnap24

5:36pm Dec 12 2010

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Okay, so my friend, we'll call her Madelyn, there's a guy she really likes, and doesn't know what to do cuz she, quote, "messed it up", and it was awkward for 3 years, now she is finally great friends with him again, but we may have messed it up again this morning. She was talking about him and how much she liked him, and he was sneaking up on us, and we're positive he heard us. He acted normal, but then when she went to something he acted like he was avoiding her. She's freaking out and needs advice badly!!!! Please help!!!! :)



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iooni

7:32pm Dec 14 2010

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definitely seeing someone else, if he cares hell be jealous, if he doesnt itll help her get over him. in any case tell her to try stop thinking and talking about him, the more space/time she devotes to him on her mind/shcedule  the more shell care about him, and we are supposed tobe the flame, not the moth



Yoshi

9:08pm Dec 14 2010

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I'd say she should just.. keep acting normal. The weirder you act, the weirder things get. If a person behaves like something's wrong, it will look like something's wrong. Don't acknowledge the awkwardness, and it should die down.

Either that, or just have her ask him out or something. Dancing around things and making huge deals out of the smallest mistakes never helps. Even if he says no, it'll probably still be better than if he finds out through someone else. It'd be easy to take that step back to a regular friendship, without all the drama and manipulation and bleh.

... And I might just be overly moral and ridiculously patient, but. In my mind, if someone really cares.. they won't get jealous. Or should try not to be, at least. Jealousy implies you want what you want, not what they want. And attempting to incite jealousy isn't exactly a great thing to do either.




DragonSnap24

7:01pm Dec 19 2010

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Okay, thank you veeeeerrrry much!!!!!!!!! But now there's more. She's been going to his house, 'cause he's been nviting her over to learn how to play instruments, and he says it's been normal and she thinks it only seemed weird 'cause she was hyper-sensitive to awkwardness...... but there's a twist. My brother is friends with him, and he went all matchmaker on him and is trying to get him to go out with 'Madelyns's' really close friend, I'll call her Annie, and he's been trying to get information out of me 'cause he knows that 'Madelyn' likes him. Grrrrrr I love my brother but right now it'd be great if I could punch him......... -.- What do I do????



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